Wednesday, August 17, 2016


A reason for being. The impetus to get out of bed in the morning. A wellspring of energy and creativity. These are the things that a feeling of purpose gives us. Purpose is kind of like faith except without the supernatural part. I mean, a communist gets up in the morning with the desire to destroy society and replace it with a vision of utopia. One more day, he thinks, chipping away at the foundations of inequality and ignorance. Purpose fills socialists with the renewed desire to lie, cheat, and steal.

But I digress. Perhaps you feel that you’ve wandered from your true purpose in life?

Most people get so caught up in their phony baloney jobs that they just don’t give themselves the time to pursue their dreams. We get so focused on our careers and our bank accounts that our passions get pushed aside and forgotten.

If this might be you, what follows is the checklist for determining if you're wasting time.

1. Do you ever put yourself first?

Sometimes you've got to do personal maintenance. You put up a sign (closed for business), shut the door, and re-connect. You can't do that by putting others first. Don't get me wrong; putting other people first is a valuable trait, and we need to take a golden rule approach to dealing with people, but when it gets to the point where you are never doing anything for yourself, well, it's time to get a double double at Whataburger. Whataburger also has these crazy root beer shakes these days that are sweet and cold on a hot afternoon and I had one yesterday...

Okay, okay. So, you get my drift, eh? Take a little time for yourself once in a while, take a long bath, do something you really enjoy (as long as it's legal), and allow yourself to feel good.

2. Maybe you are too focused on your failures.

Failures. Ha! I have failed at so much I am an expert on how to lose gracefully. Also on how to lose ungracefully. It is too easy to focus on failure and beat ourselves up. While it is true that we learn from our failures and not our successes, we should not focus solely on what we have done wrong.

Get past it, whatever it is. Figure out what you did wrong, resolve not to make the same mistakes, and move to the next task. Resolve to do better. Look at the positive aspects of what you have achieved. If nothing else, you know not to do it (whatever) again.

3. Are you enjoying yourself?

A key sign we aren’t living according to purpose is not gaining happiness from your achievements or our job. On a side note, I have never had a job that I liked. Working for someone else is a form of slavery. So, my attitude is that I work for myself, not some company of idiots who want me to work myself to death in order to make them money.

What is it you enjoy doing? Find an angle to make money from it. It's really as simple as that.

4. Unhappy?

Happiness is something that is easy to sacrifice. You can tell yourself you are happy in your routine, but you can't fool yourself all the time.

You know what makes you happy. Depression and that sort of emotional response can get to be a habit. Break the cycle of emotionality and create new habits that you enjoy.

5. Too afraid to take risks?

Life is full of risks. Be smart about taking risks but realize that to move your life along, you're going to have to stick out your neck. You're going to have to break the ice sometimes. Sometimes, you have to ask for what you want. If you’re too afraid to take risks, then you might as well live in a bubble.

To change your fear of risk taking, simply go with your gut feeling. Take a little risk at first, and then see how it pans out. If you’re successful, then keep trying.

Trust yourself, ask God for guidance, practice good habits, and enjoy your success. At that moment, you will find purpose in life.

1 comment:

  1. Great post! I realized that enduring joy does not come from being the man I thought I wanted to be, but being the man I was created to be. How astounding it was when I learned I did not come from my parents, but through them.